A Legacy of Faith

All your children shall be taught by the Lord,
And great shall be the peace of your children.  In righteousness you shall be established;
(Isaiah 54:13-14a, NKJV)

Not very long ago, we lay Adrian’s brother’s body to rest. He was only one of the twelve offspring of their parents. Adrian is actually the baby of the family; and by the time he was born, three of his siblings had already died at early ages – one of whom was the identical twin  of his recently deceased brother. It’s hard to imagine the unbearable pain of such loss for his parents, but one of the hallmarks of the Stovall father and mother is the legacy of faith they have left for the family.

The thing that changed my life forever was meeting Adrian and experiencing faith in action. It was his example of his love for God and his faith that He would help him through difficult course work that brought me to a decision where I accepted Jesus as my Savior.

It’s a most remarkable family, those Stovalls. When I first met a portion of Adrian’s family, he and I were in the early stages of our relationship. We were both in college although not the same one, so we would meet up on weekends. Just prior to one of those weekends, Adrian invited me to go to his hometown to meet his Dad (his mother had passed away when he was only 16). I was both stunned and delighted, so, of course, I accepted. I already knew that his father was a pastor, but I didn’t know quite what to expect upon our arrival. Up to this time, I didn’t know any pastors personally. He was very warm and friendly. I suppose he wanted to help Adrian impress me even more because he handed him the keys to his beautiful car and sent us off to explore the town.

I got to meet one of Adrian’s brothers, also a pastor, and wife. We got to know each other quickly and easily. I loved them right from the beginning.

That Sunday, Adrian took me to church where his father pastored. It was a new experience for me. My parents believed in God but didn’t attend church, so I was excited. The singing and clapping was new to me, and I loved it; and the congregants were warm and welcoming.

After we decided to get married, one of Adrian’s sisters-in-law came from California to help with the wedding. Later, her husband came for the actual ceremony. This brother was both a physician and a pastor. A few months after getting married, Adrian and I traveled to California with his dad to meet the rest of the Stovall clan. Did I already tell you he was the baby of 12! I met another brother who was a pastor, a sister who was a medical technician and married to a pastor, a sister who was a fashion designer for a major clothing brand, a brother who was an OB/GYN, a sister who was a science teacher and another brother who was an engineer with the military. And, oh by the way, Adrian was a chemical engineer.

When you take a full look at my husband’s extraordinary family, you discover two things about his parents. They believed in education and God. Being an African-American family with so many children one would have to wonder how on earth did they accomplish so much! The easy answer is, though they believed in education; it was their faith in God that carried them through. They have transferred that faith to their own children, and that faith has been transferred to all the children of the offspring, as well. All of our families have children who are serving the Lord, and their children are also.

You see, it’s a legacy of faith that carries on from generation to generation. God’s will for us is that we bear godly offspring, and that our children bear godly offspring, and that their children bear godly offspring and so on and so on. That’s our true inheritance!


For this is how God loved the world: He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life (John 3:16, NLT).

We love each other because he loved us first (1John 4:19, NLT).

And he has given us this command: Those who love God must also love their fellow believers (1John 4:21, NLT) .

You can’t give anyone something you don’t have or haven’t received, yourself.  Fortunately, the Scripture, John 3:16, informs us that we have been made the recipients and beneficiaries of love given by God to all humanity in the person of Jesus Christ.  The type of love I am referring to is God’s love that is based on an act of His or our will.  It’s a love not founded in feelings, physical attraction, beauty, or personal appeal, but a love that directs, constrains, and inspires us to follow the example of God toward those with whom we are in contact.

This type of God-love causes us to behave in a manner that benefits the person we confess to love.  In other words, when God gave His son for our need for reconciliation and redemption, it was because we needed help not God.  This love is not selfish but selfless, prioritizing the needs of others ahead of our personal desires where possible and appropriate.  We can do this for each other because God loved us first.  That means I can love my spouse, family, friends, and acquaintances so that it blesses them and assist them in acquiring their needs and wants. God has commanded us to love our fellow believers if we say that we love Him.

First Corinthians 13:4-7 tells how this love performs in practice: Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proudor rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance (NLT).

The point I want to make is that this God-love is first received from God and is, then,  activated by an act of your will.  When you decide that you want to share the love you received from God, God, Himself, will provide the empowerment and ability.  He will not force you or work His love through your life unless you volunteer to be His ambassador of love to your world.  It’s your choice to love God’s way with His enablement and inspiration.  I challenge you to share the love you have received from God with those closest to you first and then spread it everywhere else you go. (Adrian)

Why is Marriage So Hard?

For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother [to establish a home with his wife], and the two shall become one flesh; so that they are no longer two, but [are united as] one flesh. (Mark 10 7-8, AMP)

I find it very interesting that there are couples out there who still want to get married. I know that makes me sound like a cynic. With all the statistics out there that tell us how half of all marriages end in divorce, it surprises me that some still want to try to beat the odds. They somehow believe that they will the “lucky” ones. Trust me, luck has absolutely nothing to do with it!

We do a lot of premarital coaching, and the couples who come to us give all the right answers to questions we ask. They are very excited and bright eyed as we delve into each session. One pastor once told us that when he does premarital counseling, he feels it’s his job to talk the couples out of getting married. That sounds shocking on its face, but I totally understand. When we wrote our book, Marriage is Not for the Faint of Heart, we wanted to impress upon the readers that marriage is one of the hardest ventures they will experience; and it’s not because God intended it for it be. God didn’t place Eve in the garden with Adam to see if they could pass some, seemingly, unconquerable test to see if they were worthy of being in His Kingdom. I know it seems like that sometimes, but trust me when I tell you that God intended marriage to be a blessing.

Why, then, is marriage so hard? Then answer is simple, really. It’s because we humans are a  basically very selfish and prideful species. We want what we want when we want it, and aren’t particularly willing to let that go.

A successful marriage requires us to live a life of sacrifice. Oh no, not that! Funny thing is that, even though we tell those young (sometimes, old) couples that, they don’t really hear us because they’re ears are too stuffed with all the “I love yous” they just heard their fiancé say.

Sparkly, fairy-dust-filled love won’t cut it for making a happy marriage. When Adrian and I got married, we were absolutely crazy about each other. So, why did I cry nearly everyday the first year of our marriage? Because, after the fairy dust settled, – and it doesn’t take long for that to happen – our eyes could now actually see the flaws in each other. Now, he felt he had to make me like him, and I was trying to make him like me. That’s a recipe for disaster every time. When we were able to get over ourselves and allow our relationship with God to be our premier focus, we could begin to see each other through His eyes, and try our very best to give ourselves what God had given us: His love, His acceptance, and His  forgiveness.

I applaud those who decide to get married despite the statistics; but I also warn you, don’t go into it blindly thinking that being in mushy, gushy love is enough. We need the kind of love that is based on choice and not feelings.

So why is marriage so hard? Because until we truly submit our wills to God, we will always be in competition with each other instead of working together as a team to accomplish why God put us together in the first place. As I stated before, God intended marriage to be a blessing. If there is to be any competition in our relationship, let’s let it be to try to out-love each other and then allow ourselves to truly become the one flesh God intended: one in purpose and one in pursuit of God.

Peace Found Me

Peace I leave with you. My peace I give to you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Don’t let your heart be troubled or fearful. John 14:27 CSB

It seems that everywhere we turn today there are so many challenges to our personal peace.  Opportunities for disruption of our peace seem to confront us from our spouse, children, family, friends, work, world pandemic/health, social media, or our internal contemplation of life’s direction or destination.  Peace today just seems for most of us to be an elusive state of being that we pursue almost continually.

Ephesians 2:14 tells us that, He (Jesus) is our Peace (my parentheses, CSB), and Peace found me! Peace found me when I realized that God loved me before I knew or cared anything about Him, and pursued me to bring reconciliation and peace to my life just because I needed it.  I discovered that my peace was not a function of a lack of quiet, fear, challenges, conflicts, irritations, or anxiety but was actually founded on my belief and acceptance of Jesus Christ as the source and progenitor of true peace with God, humanity, and myself.  Through my acceptance of Jesus Christ as my personal savior, I experienced peace, love, acceptance, and forgiveness from God.

Peace flooded my heart when I understood that all these wonderful gifts were not based on my perfect or imperfect behavior but my acceptance of God’s love gift personified in Christ.  I didn’t have to do good things to be loved, accepted, and forgiven but I desired to do good and righteous things because I wanted to return the love and devotion I received from God.  All that God asked of me was to love Him and share what I have received from Him.  We can share God’s love acceptance and forgiveness with our spouse, children, friends, and ultimately the world because we have found and accepted Peace from God.

In our opening scripture, Jesus was speaking to His disciples before leaving Earth to return to heaven.  Jesus told us that He gave, then left peace with His disciples and includes us if we believe.  He instructed us to not let our hearts be troubled or fearful because we have His peace.  In Philippians 4:4-8, we are given directions for maintaining our peace:

Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I will say, rejoice! Let your gentleness be known to all men. The Lord is at hand. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things (NKJV).

Allow God to give you peace today. (Adrian)

He Wholeheartedly Followed God

…For my part, I wholeheartedly followed the LORD my God. So that day Moses solemnly promised me, ‘The land of Canaan on which you were just walking will be your grant of land and that of your descendants forever, because you wholeheartedly followed the LORD my God.’ (Joshua 14: 8b-9, NLT)

Nearly all of the book of Joshua is the telling of how the remaining children of Israel arrived in the Promised Land. If you recall the story of them being in the Wilderness, God told all those who were over the age of 20 that they would not be allowed to journey into the Promised Land because of their disobedience, including Moses.

Joshua, who was now in charge, lead the children of Israel in and, at the Lord’s command, began to conquer the enemies in the land. They faced strong men and fortified cities, but God was on their side, and they were victorious in their efforts. God had driven out great and powerful nations for them and no one was able to defeat them.

After conquering the lands, Joshua, along with Eleazar the priest, and the tribal leaders began allotting grants of  land to the tribes of Israel. Prior to entering the Promised Land, Moses sent twelve spies to scout out the land to see what God had promised. Out of the twelve, only two (Joshua and Caleb) came back with a report that they were confident that Israel could take on the enemies there and experience victory despite what looked to be the contrary to the other ten. Those ten saw giants, so they were done!

In reading Chapter 14, one thing really stood out to me. As the land was being distributed some 45 years later, Caleb requested his portion. He brought to Joshua’s remembrance that Moses had sent him to explore the land of Canaan. He reminded him how those who went in with him scared the people from entering in because of what they witnessed. Caleb, along with Joshua, however, brought back a good report. As a result, according to the Scripture above, he was promised a grant of land, also, because he ”wholeheartedly followed the Lord”. That same phrase was attributed to Caleb three times within just six verses. I wonder for how many of us would that expression be made. He had remained faithful to God all his days, so he was given the land he was promised.

As Joshua drew close to his death, he gathered together all the major leaders of Israel and rehearsed in their hearing all the things the Lord had done for them and how He had finally given them rest from their enemies. Joshua warned them not to deviate from the Book of Instructions, not to take on the practices of other nations, and certainly not worship or even mention the names of their gods. God cautioned that those things would be a snare and trap for them.

We live in a world that is so gravely tainted by sin with people practicing all kinds of damnable things that go against God’s principals. It takes a strong commitment to serving God not to be drawn away by the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eye and the pride of life, or as 1John 2:15-16 states,  Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—is not of the Father but is of the world (NKJV).

I need to examine my life and ask myself, “Do I wholeheartedly follow the Lord? Do I passionately, unreservedly, enthusiastically, totally follow Him.” I would like be able to declare a very convicted yes. However, realistically, I’m aware that even though I have named the Name of Jesus for decades, I’m still tempted to deviate from what I know as truth. I’m sure we can all reach back in history and find areas of compromise in our lives, and perhaps not so far back.

I praise God that Jesus has redeemed us because we cannot “wholeheartedly follow God” without His intervention. Thank God for His grace and for His mercies that are new every morning. As much as Caleb followed God, we have an advantage over Him: We have the Holy Spirit living on the inside of us whom we can access anytime we need to. He is our Comforter and Guide as well as the Revealer of Truth. When we are tempted to stray from doing what we know to be right, He’s there to gently remind us of God’s love for us and help us to either resist the devil, or to help us get back on track when we blow it.

If we’re determined to do so, Holy Spirit will help us wholeheartedly follow the Lord, our God. It’s a comfort to know that as He helps me to examine  my life through the Scriptures; and when I see myself in opposition to it, Holy Spirit can bring correction and conviction to get me back on course. I want my life to be one of full surrender to God. What about you? (Pam)


So we are Christ’s ambassadors; God is making his appeal through us. We speak for Christ when we plead, “Come back toGod!” (2 Corinthians 5:20, NLT)

I looked up the definition of the word ambassador and found it to mean “an authorized messenger, representative or advocate who represents someone else’s policy or purpose”.  After reading the scripture above, and thinking about my relationship with God, I realized that to be an ambassador is indeed my privilege and loving response to God’s love for me.

It excited me to realize that God had authorized me to be His representative most especially to my spouse and family. I believe I am to be His ambassador to everyone who comes into my sphere of influence but first, and most definitely, my spouse and family.  I say especially my spouse because in marriage, our mates are allowed to see God’s provision for our needs to be met specifically, personally, and with the deepest intimacy possible outside of from God, Himself.

I believe my mate should be able to see and have increased faith in the love and caring presence of God from looking into my face and observing my actions as I try to imitate the life of Christ daily. My family should develop trust in God’s faithfulness even more through our relationship with each other and the policies of God that I advocate in our home.  I’m not claiming to have achieved the perfection of Christ; but even in my failures and imperfections, they should see my desire to be the best representative I can with God’s help.

In our homes, let’s work to understand just how much we are loved individually by God and then share it with our spouse and family.  Remember, you cannot share what you have not received.  Therefore, in order for all of us to be better messengers, promoters, and representatives of God, we must, first, spend time with Him and in the study of His directives, His Word.  The more we experience a close relationship with God, the more love, patience, forgiveness, joy, and peace we can share with our loved ones.  God has given us such a great opportunity to practice His love in our homes before we take it to the world. (Adrian)

The Anatomy of an Argument

Be joyful… Encourage each other. Live in harmony and peace. Then the God of love and peace will be with you (2 Corinthians 13:11, NLT).

The words to one of my favorite hymns say this:

Peace, peace. Wonderful peace. flowing down from the Father above. Sweep over my spirit forever, I pray in fathomless billows of love.

Unless you have been living completely off the grid or under a rock,  you are fully aware of the tremendous chaos our world is experiencing, right now. Peace is something most of us want, but lately, it seems like an elusive pursuit. The good news is that it doesn’t have to be.

Believe it or not, there are many instances where we actually have control over how much peace we experience. It’s all about attitude and choice. This is especially true when it comes to conflicts within the marriage. Here is a typical scenario of when disagreements breakout: Your spouse is careless when addressing you about an offense you may have caused. He yells or uses a tone several octaves above his usual – a clear sign that he is not happy. You, of course, in turn, are offended because of his approach and feel the need to defend yourself using an equally dissonant tenor. He attacks, you counterattack. Now a full-blown argument is in progress. Not only is the battle quite heated, but you actually begin arguing about who started the argument in the first place. How foolish!

Take a look at what Romans 12:18 says: If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men. (NKJV). That includes your spouse! That’s telling us that one or the other could have taken the high road and made the choice to not launch into the stratosphere as your mate did, thus completely diffusing the situation. 

How do arguments continue or end? Proverbs 15:1 tells us, A soft answer turns away wrath,
but a harsh word stirs up anger
(NKJV). Here are more: Pro. 20:3, Avoiding a fight is a mark of honor; only fools insist on quarreling (NLT), and Pro. 21:23, Watch your tongue and keep your mouth shut, and you will stay out of trouble (NLT).

When our youngest daughter was in the seventh grade, she was only 12 and wouldn’t be turning 13 until school was almost out for the summer. She was attending a private Christian school where I also taught. During dinner, along with our other two children, we would usually talk about our day and any significant events that may have occurred. Well, my youngest daughter decided to share about a movie that her teacher showed in her Bible class. The movie was “Ghost” starring Patrick Swayze and Demi Moore. I hadn’t seen that movie in years, but I did remember that there was a very sensual scene that I considered a bit too advanced for my barely 12-year-old and besides, the movie was rated PG-13. Suffice it to say that I was incensed! Why did she choose that movie?  Why wasn’t I given a head’s up? Why didn’t she send out permission slips? I was thinking as a parent but also as a “responsible” teacher, which I obviously didn’t think she was at that point.

The next day, I expressed my ire to my principal and alerted him that I was going to have a talk with that teacher (my colleague). I’ll call her Sandy to protect the guilty. I had it all planned out in my mind that after school I was going to plaster her to the wall because I was so angry. I felt that she had taken away my ability to protect my daughter.

I informed Sandy that I wanted to talk with her after school.  After I dismissed my students and set things in order for the following day, I headed upstairs to her classroom loaded for bear. As we both sat down, I told her that I wanted to speak with her about showing the “Ghost” movie to my daughter without my permission. Before I could lay out to her all the reasons she should be boiled in oil, she said to me, in the tenderest and most apologetic voice, “Pam, I am so sorry. I messed up.” “What?!”, I thought. “Wait, wait, I was supposed to blast her, she was supposed to give me excuses, and then, I was going to feel very justified for slicing and dicing her to pieces.” Instead, I felt about two inches tall and quite ashamed for wanting to tear her apart. Her humility and gentleness took all the wind out of my sails and left me with the feeling that now we can talk about the situation in a calm and reasonable manner. She had completely diffused the atmosphere of anger and rage by her  conciliatory attitude. That taught me a lesson I have never forgotten.

Scripture is pretty clear, and so we always have a choice whether we are going to let our pride take over or obey God’s word. Let’s let the craziness of our current society stay outside our doors. Instead, let’s allow “the peace of God that passes all understanding” be the controlling factor in our homes. And if we experience enough of it, perhaps, we will have the courage to spread it around to help those outside our peaceful dwelling so others can have a taste of the precious serenity and repose we enjoy. (Pam)

Our Job

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths. (Proverbs 3:5-6, NKJV)

As we all have taken time to contemplate the atmosphere and social condition of the world we now live in, the question arises from within asking, “How should I conduct my life.” Sometimes we wonder, “Just how do I fit into the scheme of things and live a life of significance.”  The scripture quoted above came to mind as I pondered where our world situation is going and what must I do to successfully navigate the challenges and events of our time.

I have come to the conclusion that my job in this life is to trust God with all my heart and mind.  Somehow we have been convinced that worrying and surrendering our peace is how we need to confront life’s many encounters.  But, Proverbs 3:5-6 tells us that we are to trust the Lord and not to depend on our own understanding.   That does not mean that we don’t use our common sense, rather, that our common sense should be based on the knowledge obtained from God’s shared incites and expertise found in His Word.  When I say “our job”, I mean our defined purpose, pursuit, and all-consuming activity in this life.

In order for me to trust God, I must seek a relationship with Him as specified and explained in His Word, the Bible.  I must discover what He has directed me to do and then believe that He desires to direct me in a path that will produce the results promised.  I have never found a scripture that instructs me to worry or be anxious but we have just read one that compels us to trust or believe in God.  God promises to direct, guide, or show the path forward for your life.

In looking for God’s direction, I found the following instruction in Philippians 4:6-8:  Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise (NLT)

If I accept as my job – the assignment given by God to trust Him with my whole heart and follow His directives – He has promised to give me guidance.  As I look to His Word for His instructions and dare to adhere to the revealed guidelines, He promises to give me peace that exceeds anything I can understand.

What a wonderful relationship and fellowship we can have with God as we pursue our life’s job of trust and obedience to His Word. (Adrian)

Is Your Marriage a God-Free Zone?

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Is there any place I can go to avoid your Spirit?  to be out of your sight?
If I climb to the sky, you’re there. If I go underground, you’re there!
If I flew on morning’s wings  to the far western horizon,
You’d find me in a minute—  you’re already there waiting!
(Ps.139:7-10, Message)

Several years ago, we took a trip to Hawaii, one of several dream destinations for a lot of people. We always wanted to go, but, to be honest, I was a little reluctant because the idea of flying across hundreds of miles of ocean was a bit disconcerting to me. Thankfully, I got over that, and we had a very nice time there.

On one of our outings, we decided to hop on a shuttle to try to find some shopping. We stopped at what was supposed to be a shopping center. It was, indeed, that; but we once got inside, we were confused. It appeared that there were several office-like suites. As we explored further, we finally discovered that there was an entire floor dedicated to duty-free shopping. It was a zone where products were sold without the import, sales, value-added or other taxes. You’ve probably seen them in some airports and even on cruise ships.

There are, obviously, many types of zones, but there is one particular type of zone I want to talk about. In our first book, Marriage is Not for the Faint of Heart, we discussed the idea that many people seem to feel that their homes are a sort of “God-free zone.” The concept was that, as Christians, they knew they were to behave in a Christ-like manner throughout their day as they interacted with the “world.” However, once they crossed the threshold of their homes, they could now let their hair down and act anyway they please. They may not have consciously declared their homes as a God-free zone, but all of their actions said it loudly and clearly.

I’m sure most of you are familiar with the television series, “The Twilight Zone.” Most of the stories had odd endings that revealed that things were not always as they seemed. Unfortunately, although a lot Christians may not be living in a “twilight zone”, per se,  their home lives may not be exactly as they appear to be from the outside.  They are, in fact, living in a “God-free zone”.

So, how do you know if you’re living in a so-called God-free zone? You can determine it by asking yourself the following questions:

  1. How do I treat my spouse and/or children when no one else is looking?
  2. What tone do I use? Am I rude and unmannerly?
  3. Do I use foul or abusive language?
  4. Am I ready to pounce on every mistake my family members make?
  5. Do I make every effort to represent Jesus in my home?
  6. Am I an encourager or do I use put downs to make my point?
  7. Do I try to win disagreements by going for the jugular?

I could go on and on with the questions, but I think you get the point. Why is it that we don’t particularly care what the people closest to us think of our behavior? They are, after all, the ones on whom we have the most influence. They are, in fact, the ones who can tell the world who we really are.

Let’s not get it twisted! God is omnipresent, omnipotent, and omniscient. We couldn’t escape Him if we tried. Instead of living a life of duplicity, why not let the Holy Spirit inside of us transform us into the very image of God so that we are whom we appear to be no matter where we are – home or otherwise. Let’s not allow our homes to be a God-free zone. Let’s say, joyfully, “God you are welcome into every part of my life, nothing is hidden from you, I have no secret rooms you aren’t allowed into.”  (Pam)

Permission to be Happy

The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it overflows) John 10:10 (AMPC)

…and the one who trusts in the Lord will be happy. Proverbs 16:20b (HCSB)

Surely there is not a day that goes by that we don’t hear about all the horrible things that happen to be going on in our nation and the world at large, not to mention the personal challenges we may be facing. If we are not mindful and careful, we can get so caught up in the “stuff” that we get discouraged and depressed. As “natural” humans, that’s considered normal. However, those of us who name the name of Jesus are no longer “natural” humans; we are spiritual and, thus, operate on a different plane.

Many times, even if we are not personally struggling, we take on the cares of this world and begin to wring our hands in worry or even despair. God never intended for us to live that way. We may not have all the answers, but God does, even if He doesn’t necessarily share them with us. The solution to not having all the answers is to simply Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not rely on your own understanding (Proverbs 3:5 CSB). God sees the big picture while we get caught up in the details. He can, as my husband always says, see around corners while we typically can only see what’s in front of us.

Sometimes, I think we just need to give ourselves permission to be happy and take pleasure in the little things. I wonder if some might think that if we allow ourselves to smile or find joy in the midst of difficulty, we must not really care. But here’s the thing: The joy of the Lord is your strength (Nehemiah 8:10, KJV). While going through tough times, it’s still important to maintain our joy because if the enemy can steal our joy, he can steal our strength; and we need all the strength we can get to be able to handle these attacks.

I’m fairly certain most everyone reading this post has experienced the loss of a loved one at some point your life. Adrian’s brother passed away last week, and although it was sad to see him go, we knew he was home with the Lord. That made the loss less painful. It brings to mind what Paul shared with the Church at Thessalonica, Now we do not want you to be uninformed, believers, about those who are asleep [in death], so that you will not grieve [for them] as the others do who have no hope [beyond this present life] (1 Thessalonians 4:13, AMP).

I’ve seen it over and over again with the loss of a loved one or friend where people begin to recount memories they have of them and either smile or laugh out loud at some comical event regarding them. It never fails, even in sorrow we can always find something that brings a little joy to our hearts if we let Holy Spirit do His work. Jesus came to give us abundant life. We shouldn’t take that lightly. This earthly existence is not the end for us, so we should allow ourselves to experience joy in the midst of trouble, joy in the midst of heartache. Let’s look around and see the beauty of nature and smile.

Let’s remember some of the quirkiness of our friends and loved ones and laugh. At times, we might just need to watch a good ol’ comedy and remember that A happy heart is good medicine and a cheerful mind works healing… (Proverbs 17:22a, AMPC).

Let’s give ourselves permission to be happy, not because our circumstances are perfect but because we trust in the Lord. (Pam)