Everyone enjoys a fitting reply; it is wonderful to say the right thing at the right time. (Proverbs 15:23, NLT)
In today’s woke, get real world, so many people seem to specialize in the communication style of criticism. In a supposed attempt to be real and possibly truthful, people are choosing to make negative, hurtful observations and declarations. Making these types of choices can be destructive and offensive to relationships and interactions of all varieties and communications. Truth should always be welcomed in any type of communication but cruel, insensitive criticism must be avoided especially within our marriages.
The word appreciate is defined as 1)to be fully aware of the value, importance, or magnitude of, 2) to esteem adequately or highly, 3) to show gratitude for, and 4) to increase the price or value of. The scripture quoted above says that everyone enjoys a fitting or proper reply. The expression of appreciation toward our spouses and family should be chosen as the appropriate form of communication to make our loved ones understand just how much they are valued and esteemed. It is so important to say the right thing at the right time.
I am a great believer in saying what sometimes may seem obvious to us but hidden from those around us. The vocalizing of the fact that we love our mates and family members and value their contribution to our life is a welcome exchange of information that brings joy and warmth to the hearer. It also is great for us to hear it coming from our mouths, the true valuation of our loved ones. This helps us to remember that we don’t want to use our words to hurt or inflict wounds that may take years to heal.
There are times that unpleasant topics or experiences need to be discussed; but even when spoken, the truth must always be shared in love. There is always something that we can value, and we can make others aware of their importance from our perspective. Then if negative information is discussed, you will have established a foundation of true appreciation and love beforehand.
We can ask God to help us to express our appreciation and gratitude regularly, creating an environment of love, support, and understanding. This will allow us to experience the wonder and joy of saying the right thing at the right time. Learn to speak many truthful good words to those in your sphere of influence, but especially to the person God has chosen to be your life partner.
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